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IMPORTANCE OF SELF CONFIDENCE What is Self Confidence Self-confidence is the belief in oneself and abilities, it describes an internal state made up of what we think and feel about ourselves. Self confidence is the belief that we can do things we normally don’t do when we find ourselves in unfamiliar territory. Self confidence stems from our inner self.  Everyone is created differently, some people are created shy while some are outspoken. This should not deter us in being confident when the need arises. Types of self confidence There are two major types of self confidence;   ·         Low self confidence ·         High self confidence Low self confidence: This is a person who has a poor belief in both their self worth and competence. They basically have constant feeling of insecurity they are timid and mostly shy. Most suffer from depression and anxiety .  Low self-confidence can result in: shyness communication difficulties, social anxiety and lack of

Bad Habits That Steal Your Joy Everyone has that habit that makes them different. Habits control our way of life and it has a great influence on our emotions depending on the situation. Habits are formed over time. Our thoughts and mind are in control of our well being. Often times we find ourselves participating in a negative behavior which we may or may not be conscious of because our subconscious mind is already used to this negative pattern. These common habits can steal our happiness if we engage in them. Below are few of the bad habits and how to overcome them. Constant thoughts of the past It is called the past for certain reasons meaning that whatever you do cannot change it. You find yourself feeling gloomy about a mistake which you could have avoided. This makes you sad because your mind is now focused on that sad experience which causes negative energy to form around you. Why do you constantly re-live your past? Embrace your past and get over it.  To relieve yo

A HAPPY GIRL (HELPFUL HABITS THAT WILL ENSURE HAPPINESS) We often think of how our lives will be impacted when everything is in place. You often dream of that perfect life with no hiccups whatsoever. However you are burdened with so many setbacks in achieving this scenario. Your life is a product of your characters which are also a product of your habits. In this article, I will be highlighting ten habits that will ensure our happiness. Happiness is already in your ability, we all have habits, and they either work for us or hinder us. Deep down in our mind if we should be sincere we can deduce those habits that are working to serve us or those that are working to hold us back.  We are a reflection of our habits. 1.       Practice forgiveness I made this my first point because of its importance.  In this life there is a very strong possibility that we will be hurt by people as no one is perfect. We all argue and have disagreements.  The best way for overcoming this emoti

“There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but he must take it because conscience tells him it is right.” – Martin Luther King Jr. Do u usually have that crazy feeling in your gut that refuses to stop unless you succumb to it. Yeah! That is your conscience pricking you to do something in a situation. Most times refusing to do this result in a “vague sense of guilt” about what you should have done in such situations. There’s a saying that goes that a clear conscience fears to accusation.  Our conscience is like our innermost sanctuary that guides us and directs our everyday dealings. A MAN LISTENING TO HIS ANGEL AND DEVIL SELF IN MAKING A DECISION A conscience is aptitude, faculty, intuition or judgement that assists in distinguishing right from wrong .  It can also be understood as our power to choose what is good and what is evil.  A lot of people disregard this thinking faculty and instead do what they feel like. Co

A Blogger's Mind A BLOGGER So I started blogging for the past two weeks now and my experience has been worthwhile. Though it has not been a smooth journey, I came to realize that it’s easier said than done. Apart from the regular writers block there’s a whole lot to blogging. After i decided to use blogger offered by Google, I am still learning new things every day.  I thought it was going to be easy dishing out a 400 character post but that’s not the case. To rank in Google search engines it’s required for your articles to be at least 2000 characters. The more characters the better. Not to forget that you need quality content. I thought I had lost my muse after I felt totally blank without an idea of what to write. My greatest question in blogging is, how do I know what niche to specialize on? I am still writing on a variety of things till I get to know what I am good at.  I love to help and advice people so I am sticking mostly to motivational and inspirational m

A Woman In The Sunset Do you know that feeling you get, when you’re disappointed things don’t go the way you planned. That feeling in your chest like you have a hole in the heart. You feel trapped and defeated and there is no hope of anything better. The best thing to do in such situations is analyse the situation because worrying will not solve the problem. You’re the only one standing in your way. Calm down, relax, take a chill pill and breathe then tell me why? Why do we worry about everything? Why do we worry at all? Why do we give ourselves high blood pressure on situations we don’t have control over. What is worry? Worry can be defined as problems or unpleasant things that make you anxious. According to the Merriam- Webster dictionary, Worry is a mental or agitation resulting from concern usually for something impending or anticipated. I remember when I was younger, my mum will be worried about my whereabouts when i go out late then, I usually feel angry due to her