Wednesday, 30 November 2016

How To Make The Best Out of Every Situation

how to make the best out of every situation


Daring ideas are like chessmen moved forward. They may be beaten, but they may start a winning game.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Life has its ups and downs, twists and turns. It throws us into uncomfortable situations when we even doubt ourselves. Coming out on top is why I have written this article. Even if it’s a slight advantage, it is important we are at the preferable point. We all prefer when we are in our comfort zone, where there are no issues, we are relaxed and that’s when everything is termed fine. For instance, if we take a cue from the world chess championship ongoing presently in New York you notice how the players take time analyzing the situation on the board they think of their opponents next move, they make plans to outsmart their opponents. Such is life, plan against the next move.

“When you see a good move, look for a better one”—Emmanuel Lasker

The end justifies the means but the present is as important. Most successful people in the world make every situation count. They don’t see obstacles as setbacks rather they see them as challenges and they fight to overcome them.  Remember; accept there are things you can’t control and let go. See every situation as a way to boost your self confidence.

Take every action seriously, as there are repercussions for each.  Accept and love yourself and build your self confidence. Be venerable and connect deeper with everyone. Everyone is different and diverse and it imminent that you will come across people that will irritate you. Once you can get your emotions under control and in check, then you can overcome any temptation. If you carry grudges in your mind then it will be like a baggage in your head. But once you have a mentality that everything happens for a reason then you will find out that you are free.

Be sure that people also make life difficult but you have to make the best out of every situation, no matter how negative. No man is perfect except God and if we put this in mind, you will be able to tolerate others. Perfectionist always push themselves and have high expectations they see each situation as a competition with life being their rival. This is an advantage if you have this personality but there are disadvantages because they can easily be depressed if things don’t work out.

One of the things that can contribute in setting one up for disappointment is having high expectations. While having high expectations can be beneficial in many areas of life, it’s always good to make sure that these expectations are realistic. This is also a great discussion to have with kids so they can learn that making the best out of every situation will ultimately make them happy. Children are very sensitive and they pick up habits and if they’re wired to be less confident then it will be difficult for them to comport themselves when faced with similar situations later in life.

Half the time, a situation happens that directly influences us, hurts our feelings, makes us feel uncomfortable and lingers throughout our day, this is so because we let it happen. Let me use a typical work situation, the instance when your boss replies to you indifferently, be polite and professional, and let him know that you don’t appreciate being spoken to that way. Be bold but polite. Maintain your stance and principles. If your boss is someone of integrity and a great personality it will be easy for him to understand.

Calm responses go a long way to cool an already heated situation.  You can make the best out of every situation you find yourself by having a plan and a goal and means to achieve that goal. Even negative situations can end up being the take home lesson. We learn constantly through experience and practice so if a situation presents itself more than once we can take advantage of it since we already know the outcomes of certain decisions we take.

Friday, 11 November 2016

3 Simple Steps To Remain Positive Despite Setbacks

How to Remain Positive Despite Setbacks
A Postive Mind 

"No matter how things are rough the courage and will power to move on is the ultimate and it’s what differentiates a fighter from someone who gives up."

You have to remain positive despite any setback. You do not owe anyone that excuse just for people to sympathize with your cause. There are a lot of people who do this and rely on an excuse not to be where they are. There is no ordeal in this world that does not occur without obstacles. Obstacles are a way of life. Set backs are a constant occurrence in life. There are individuals that keep going despite some setbacks. They are fighters and they have this will power to never stop until they achieve that goal. It is the mindset that separates the best from the rest if you wake up each day with a goal then you would have put into consideration the obstacles and setbacks that might occur and mapped out strategies to overcome them.

"Start now, start where you are, start with fear, start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just… start."

Your thoughts and actions need to be positive in order to have an attractive personality. The way you think has a lot of effect on the way and how you act. And if one has positive thoughts in his mind then that also gives him the confidence boost to overcome setbacks. Situations and circumstances in life can always be full of highs and lows. In order to adopt a positive outlook towards life, you need to find the brighter side of things and focus on the good parts.

By developing our personality we can boost our self esteem and have positive thoughts which will in turn drive positive actions and finally yield a positive outcome. There are people who do not have the power to persevere through hurdles they get discouraged easily when something disrupts the flow. What if you are faced with a situation where you need to make a decision that will either make or mar your achievements what would you do? The simple solution is just to sit back and understand the situation. Then secondly you need to look for alternative ways to avoid those kinds of situations from coming up then finally decide on what approach to use to prevent future occurrence of this set back.

Follow these three steps to keep your positivity level high despite setbacks.

1.     Acknowledge your problem and setback
From the Nigerian Author of the book  “ Things fall apart” we can deduce that things fall apart for things to fall back together and breakdowns can create breakthroughs. Once we can acknowledge the set back then we can act towards eliminating it and coming through greener on the other side. We find out that once we acknowledge the problem and we conquer our fear we remain more positive, we become wiser and stronger. we have to remain positive despite setbacks.

2.   Stop pointing fingers
This is a common practice, people tend to apportion blame when bad things happen to them, and they point fingers at others and blame spiritual attacks. No one is immune to set backs so stop blaming people by so doing we are in the right direction in remaining positive.

3.   Time heals all wounds
 Time heals everything, to remain positive in life you need to allow time pass and heal us. Most of us are so impatient that we end up ruining other aspects of our life. Positivism is not something to be rushed into, take your time and access the situation. By so doing you will achieve whatever you have set up as your goal.

There you have it, 3 simple steps to remain positive despite setbacks. You can add your steps in the comment box so we can share ideas together.

Feel free to share your own experience on the comment box below.