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| Bad Habits That Steal Your Joy |
Everyone has that habit that makes them different. Habits
control our way of life and it has a great influence on our emotions depending on the
situation. Habits are formed over time. Our thoughts and mind are in control of
our well being. Often times we find ourselves participating in a negative
behavior which we may or may not be conscious of because our subconscious mind
is already used to this negative pattern. These common habits can steal our
happiness if we engage in them. Below are few of the bad habits and how to overcome them.
Constant thoughts of the past
It is called the past for certain reasons meaning that whatever you do
cannot change it. You find yourself feeling gloomy about a mistake which you
could have avoided. This makes you sad because your mind is now focused on that
sad experience which causes negative energy to form around you. Why do you
constantly re-live your past? Embrace your past and get over it. To relieve yourself from this burden, think
about your present situation, satisfy yourself that things happen for a reason
and let it go.
Worrying about tomorrow
We constantly find ourselves worrying about the future when we know we
have little influence on how it unfolds. Live for the presence and be at peace.
I am not saying planning for the future is not a good thing, you can plan for
it but don’t over indulge in it to the extent that it steals our joy
from us. Enjoy the present and know that the tomorrow will take care of itself.
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Do not worry too much as our lives has been mapped out. Think about how
to make the present beautiful so that the future will be comfortable as well.
Comparing yourself to others
We often give ourselves emotional trauma when we constantly compare ourselves
to other people. We are all born differently and we need to remind ourselves
that all fingers are not equal. In our great quest to be like that friend we constantly wish to be like, we
tend to do things that are not comfortable for us and end up disappointed. We
are all unique in our different ways and we have our own strength and weaknesses.
You will be surprised that the awesome person we are trying to comparing ourselves too, will be
admiring something in us. This habit is common among teenagers in high school. Instead of feeling jealous about that person
why not use that as a motivation to be like that person. Comparing yourself to
others will only steal your joy in the long run.
Being too serious about life
Yes! You are too serious about life. This is a bad habit that will drain
you of your emotional strength. I wonder why we take life that we have little
influence over to seriously. Live life to its fullest, live everyday like its your last day on earth, unwind and have fun,
relax and give yourself a break from the everyday hassle. We are in this life
to learn and make mistakes and we learn from these mistakes. Anytime you see
yourself making mistakes laugh over it and give yourself a pat in the back because next time you wont repeat that same mistake.
Living a borrowed life
Who cares what you do? We are all in this world to make a mark that is
why everyone is part of a whole. It is our own unique attributes that bring a
complex situation together. Do not live a borrowed life, do not copy or pretend
to be someone you are not. Boost your self esteem and let your light shine. The
moment you discover your self-worth then you will be totally free to impact in
the society. Even if you look at someone as your rival, the best you can do is
recognizing your own strengths, building on it to bring out the real you. You will be surprised how this works like magic.
Being a perfectionist
Nothing steals our joy faster than the quest for perfection. Failures
are proofs that we are human beings. No one is perfect but we find people that
strive for perfection. They go all the way to make things perfect even though it is through illegal means. if this is not done their urge is unsatisfied. It is only robots that we know are perfect and even robots
malfunction some times. It is necessary for you to embrace your mistake and
live a life of joy. Be a learner and ask questions. it is only by asking questions you
tend to learn and be the best in that endeavor.
Working without zeal
Working for no pay or pay that cannot cater for your needs and that of your family is disastrous and frustrating. The economic problems and
hardship in the country is enough to make someone go mad. Don’t give up on your
dreams; look for a job that will help you financially. Choose a job you love doing and engage in it.
There is a feeling you get when you are in the wrong industry. for instance, imagine an Engineer working in the bank. You find
yourself working just because there is no alternative. This habit will continue
to ruin your joy except you make a decision to switch to something better. What
are you going to do in such situation?
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Bottling up your feelings
You need to express yourself to ensure relief. This will ensure a light heart. why carry such load of burden about? Bottling up
feelings will allow them to build up and cause problems. if you bottle them up
it will eventually blow up one day. If you are burdened about an issue it is
better to let it out irrespective of what people will feel.
There you have it 7 bad habits that steal our joy. What is the one thing
you can change about your life? Make a decision today and take life easy as it
comes; the change begins with you.
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