The Worry Article Of Your Dreams

A Woman In The Sunset

Do you know that feeling you get, when you’re disappointed things don’t go the way you planned. That feeling in your chest like you have a hole in the heart. You feel trapped and defeated and there is no hope of anything better. The best thing to do in such situations is analyse the situation because worrying will not solve the problem. You’re the only one standing in your way. Calm down, relax, take a chill pill and breathe then tell me why? Why do we worry about everything? Why do we worry at all? Why do we give ourselves high blood pressure on situations we don’t have control over.

What is worry?

Worry can be defined as problems or unpleasant things that make you anxious. According to the Merriam- Webster dictionary, Worry is a mental or agitation resulting from concern usually for something impending or anticipated. I remember when I was younger, my mum will be worried about my whereabouts when i go out late then, I usually feel angry due to her constant calls but now I think bank and laugh over it because its just her motherly instincts at work, I just tell her not to worry that I will back soon.

Worry is like a rocking chair it doesn't take us anywhere. it is like a stagnant pool of water. What happens to water that is stagnant? It breeds mosquitoes, flies and it is offensive. These are the side effects of what worrying can do to our body. It is okay to worry about situations and things that affect us but it is wrong when we don't act on those thoughts. however, it's better off putting our body's on auto pilot mode than giving it the stress.

Causes of Worry

Worry can be caused by not trusting God to take care of us and any of our life situations. We are too sure of our personal abilities to do everything. We forget that we need God to direct our affairs and pilot our lives. Our inner peace is destroyed when we worry and fret about issues. Even after trying to do it ourselves we find out that we come up short and the problem still persist because we are unable to come up with a suitable solution to the problem. In the bible, Matthew 6:25-26, Jesus says we should not worry about tomorrow that it will take care of itself. What to eat, drink, and wear. Even the birds of the air do not worry because the Lord takes care of their needs. We lack faith that's why we worry about all these things.

Worry can also be caused when we indulge too much on certain problems. Dwelling on it,  giving it precedence over other issues. We get worked up too much and end up panicking even to the extent of losing our precious sleep at some worst case scenario. This increases the negative effect of that thought on us. We need to let it go, so it doesn't generate into another deeper problem. There are definitely some issues that can be solved immediately and others that cannot be solved immediately. It just lies in identifying those ones that can be solved now then leaving out those ones that have potential to cause us discomfort.

How to change the trend

I am not in any way condemning people that worry; it is a natural human condition. Many people worry for good reasons known to them. It gives them poor judgement because their sense of reasoning is flawed at that situation. The panic button has been set on, they no longer have the will power to relax and analyse the causative factor. It is the same with our personal lives. Many of the things we are worried about are things that can be managed with the right decisions. 

My previous post on overcoming the fear of rejection, I pointed out various points to overcome this fear and the effects it has on people. These two topics are linked. For instance, you apply for a job and get rejected by a potential employer, we find out a chain reaction which starts with a feeling of disappointment, it now leads to a second phase where you're worried and depressed. Next is the thought of what to do after this setback resulting to a slump of inflicted depression. In order to leave a stable life our stress limits need to be put in check regularly. 

Whenever we worry we should think of ways to solve the underlying problem as I have said earlier pondering and panicking won't take you anywhere rather it will cause you stress, depression and more. One strategy we can use is to start by identifying the frightening thought in your mind, single it out to be sure that is causative factor. Then instead of viewing it as thoughts and facts, treat them as hypotheses you’re testing out. As you examine and challenge your fears and worries you will develop a sane and balanced perspective about the situation. We should not to bite more than we can chew. Take life easily as it comes. Do not run after materialistic things too much. Live a simple life and worrying will be something of the past. 

Why we should stop worrying

Stop, listen, and think of the life you have. Have you noticed you’re still breathing, you’re healthy. When there is life there is hope. Count your blessings and name them one by one by so doing you remove the stress and pain you put yourself through by worrying about issues. Worrying causes health issues it saps you of your emotional energy and can cause headaches from constant brain stress. Even when situations are dire the only thing you can do is cry it off that is if tears could make things better. Get up, life is too short to be worried about what to do. One of the reasons why people engage their worry is they think, this is an issue I must sort out now, I have to plan about the next outcome. Oh, I need to buy foods for my dog, oh, the garden needs pruning, Oh, the school session will soon commence, I need to get my children fees ready, and there are countless examples of what we worry about. Yes it’s okay to engage in all this, as it can be termed planning for future occurrence but why can’t we set a time in the day to think about all these, and then take actions to solving them one at a time instead of allowing them build up forming cross word puzzles in our brains. 

It’s time to let it go

Though it’s hard to break away from a norm, but you can digest this article and apply some of the advice I have written above and take it step by step. Take away the positives and change your life.  Always keep a smiling face and worry no more. Let’s get your comments on your experience with worry and how you manage it when it comes up.

Make a decision today to stop this from affecting your life.

Why worry?!

Source: Worry Definition/ Merriam Webster, The holy bible, The cause and cure for worry